So, sexual desire is a big deal to us, because it was first a big deal to God.It is a gift, but it needs to be , which is exactly where we're having trouble today.If you’ve read the Book of Esther, you know that there was a plot to murder all of the Jews, but when Esther’s uncle Mordecai found out about it, he approached Esther and told her that she must approach the king about it, or all the Jews, including her, would be dead. Esther went to the king and revealed a plot to kill the Jews. She could have died by keeping silent, but Esther’s brave act saved the lives of thousands of Jews.Her courage is revealed when she tells Mordecai, (Esther ). The Book of Ruth never mentions God, but you can clearly see God’s hand throughout the book, because they end up fasting, which surely means fasting and praying.She refused, so the king’s attendants suggested he see the most beautiful women in the kingdom to select a new queen for himself (Esther 2:4-5).The other women sent six months in preparing for this time (Esther -13), but it says of Esther, Esther had waited her turn and didn’t try to push her way ahead of the others. She must have known that God is sovereign and so she did what she was told. When Esther finally passed before the king, the king was instantly attracted to Esther.Ted Huston, a leading researcher on transitions in relationships, marriage and parenthood, followed couples for 13 years starting in 1979.He states in his study that happily married couples dated for approximately 25 months before getting married. Couples who were unhappily married soon after they said “I do” and quickly divorced more often married at or after three years.
I think working really hard to develop a solid foundation builds trust and is so important before taking a relationship to a sexual level.
There seemed to be a special connection between them that made me wonder, It started me on a quest to discover what I call "practical abstinence." All of the "true love waits" messages mean nothing if they can't be put into practice.
And that seems to be where many Christians fall short. You can't jump into dating and expect that sexual temptation won't be an issue.
It takes a very long time to get to know a person intimately and if you rush the physical intimacy you allow hormones to take the wheel of your relationship and, often, miss vital cues about a person you are still getting to know.
When the “love” or “lust” drug wears off, you’ll look at the person soberly for the first time and you may not like what you see. So many guys think about sex first, and everything else last.