Not only are they using a lame excuse to manage down your expectations or to even passive aggressively communicate that they want out or that things are casual, but when you use this as an excuse, you’re talking yourself into managing down your own expectations. I even asked him if he was working for MI5 or running a country that I was unaware of. I’m not saying that people don’t have busy lives but using it as an excuse for why you don’t make an effort is bullshit.
Whatever it is, they’re able to recognize that diving into a relationship just isn’t sensible at this point.
If anyone you are seeing exhibits a significant number of these traits, it is time to tell him to move along.1.
He takes forever to text or email you back In this technological age, there is nothing easier than sending someone a quick email or text. He maintains physical and emotional distance Does he often break eye contact, even in private?
“Some people may also have been burned in [the past], where their schedule may have wrecked a relationship and may be more cautious as a result,” Durvasula says. D., a clinical psychologist in private practice in Manhattan, agrees.
“There can be some reality to the idea of being too busy to date,” she says.